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PHS Alerts Parents to Varsity Athletes' "Points for Sex" Activity

Piedmont High School Principal Rich Kitchens addressed a so-called "fantasy slut league" in a notice sent to parents of PHS students on Friday. PHS will focus on "education and understanding moving forward, not discipline for past ac

What has apparently been an open secret at Piedmont High School for several years — the existence of a "Fantasy Slut League" where male varsity athletes amass "points" for sexual activity with female students — became public Friday when the school district issued a notice to parents of PHS students.

The notice, in the form of a letter from PHS Principal Rich Kitchens, said information about the "league" surfaced after the school's annual freshman assembly on date rape prevention in early October.

"It has been reported that students on some of our Varsity Teams have set up a "Fantasy Slut League" in which our female students (unbeknownst to most of them) are drafted as part of the league," Kitchens' letter said. "Male students earn points for documented engagement in sexual activities with female students."

Kitchens wrote that an investigation by PHS staff revealed:

  • "General recognition that over the past 5-6 years such a league has existed in one form or another as part of "bonding" for some Varsity Teams during their seasons of sport.
  • "Many students (male and female) were aware of it and participated. Male and female students felt pressure to participate and/or lacked confidence to overtly stop it.
  • "Participation often involved pressure/manipulation by older students that included alcohol to impair judgment/control and social demands to be popular, feel included and attractive to upper classmen.
  • "A commitment from current Varsity Team members that there is none of the activity going on now (at least from this point forward).
  • "Fear that participation in the league could have in-school discipline consequences and affect future college acceptance."

School staff "did not get any specific identification of male or female student participants," Kitchens wrote.

"The revelation that students expressed concern that the fallout could result in discipline and affect their college applications suggests an understanding by students that there is something wrong with the 'Fantasy Slut League'," Kitchens said.

"While off-campus activities are not subject to school discipline, because it involves our students it involves us. At this point, because we do not have specifics about participants or victims, our focus is on education and understanding moving forward, not discipline for past activities.

"Our Acting teacher, Kim Taylor, who developed the 'Date Rape Prevention' assembly, is collecting personal stories from a variety of student (and adult) sources to develop a similar type assembly that addresses this issue and other related personal integrity issues.

"Afterward, facilitated structured discussions with students will occur in classes. We are also establishing a new meeting for athletes at the start of each season to address issues of sportsmanship, conduct, and integrity.

"Additionally, we will also discuss a more comprehensive way to address these issues as part of our PHS School Site Council goals."

Kitchens urged parents to talk with their teenagers about the issue.

The complete text of the notice follows:

Important Notice from the Piedmont Unified School District

October 19, 2012

TO PARENTS OF PHS STUDENTS

I am writing to follow up on information that has surfaced recently as part of our annual "Date Rape Prevention" assembly. Every student and many parents at PHS have seen this assembly that grew out of real-life incidents experienced by Piedmont students.  

We have recently heard of troubling incidents involving our students that I feel are important to share with all parents. Based on the "fantasy league" game concept, it has been reported that students on some of our Varsity Teams have set up a "Fantasy Slut League" in which our female students (unbeknownst to most of them) are drafted as part of the league. Male students earn points for documented engagement in sexual activities with female students. Although I was surprised and sorry to find out that this concept is not unique to Piedmont High School, it does not deter our responsibilities as an educational community to address it. 

The Administrative staff conducted an investigation by interviewing students, parents and staff as to facts about such a league with the interest of identifying individuals involved, including student victims. We did not get any specific identification of male or female student participants. What we did gather prompted me to share information with parents so that you can be partners in reinforcing our mission to develop young people who treat each other with dignity, respect, and courtesy. Our information revealed:

  • General recognition that over the past 5-6 years such a league has existed in one form or another as part of "bonding" for some Varsity Teams during their seasons of sport.
  • Many students (male and female) were aware of it and participated.
  • Male and female students felt pressure to participate and/or lacked confidence to overtly stop it.
  • Participation often involved pressure/manipulation by older students that included alcohol to impair judgment/control and social demands to be popular, feel included and attractive to upper classmen.
  • A commitment from current Varsity Team members that there is none of the activity going on now (at least from this point forward).
  • Fear that participation in the league could have in-school discipline consequences and affect future college acceptance.

The entire Piedmont High School staff joins me in developing activities and conducting discussions to strengthen student integrity and the confidence to act in positive ways. The revelation that students expressed concern that the fallout could result in discipline and affect their college applications suggests an understanding by students that there is something wrong with the "Fantasy Slut League." While off-campus activities are not subject to school discipline, because it involves our students it involves us. At this point, because we do not have specifics about participants or victims, our focus is on education and understanding moving forward, not discipline for past activities.

Our Acting teacher, Kim Taylor, who developed the "Date Rape Prevention" assembly, is collecting personal stories from a variety of student (and adult) sources to develop a similar type assembly that addresses this issue and other related personal integrity issues. Afterward, facilitated structured discussions with students will occur in classes. We are also establishing a new meeting for athletes at the start of each season to address issues of sportsmanship, conduct, and integrity. Additionally, we will also discuss a more comprehensive way to address these issues as part of our PHS School Site Council goals.

What we are asking of parents:

The purpose of alerting parents to this type of activity is to encourage you to talk with your teen.  Include allowing your student to share his/her perspective.  Encourage your child to understand their personal boundaries and provide strategies how to maintain those boundaries. Support them in taking a stand in the face of activities they know to be wrong. Help them truly understand what respect for their own and opposite gender looks like. Model what you want of them. We will let you know when the assemblies are scheduled so that you can seize the opportunity to continue the dialogue.

You have heard me say "we are all in this together." We have to act in unison to help our students grow and develop into the young men and women we envision. We have an incredible group of students who are going to be tomorrow's leaders. Let us give them all of the support, education and tools they need to become who we know they are.

Please be bold in your conversations with your child. Feel free to contact me, Anne Dolid, Karyn Shipp and/or your child?s counselor if you have any questions or would like additional support. If you discover your child is in distress or has been taken advantage of, please contact the PHS Wellness Center so that we can provide him/her support.

Thank you for working with the Piedmont High School staff in providing the 360 degree support that makes Piedmont a community.

Sincerely,
Rich Kitchens and the PHS Staff

Do you think Piedmont High School is doing enough to address this issue? Share your thoughts in the comments section below.

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ml1999 October 24, 2012 at 05:40 pm
Bad example. Duke lacrosse players were smeared and innocent.
ml1999 October 24, 2012 at 05:41 pm
Yup. Where is this list?
FYI - e ven if deleted, there are ways to retrieve this list and other information!!
ml1999 October 24, 2012 at 05:43 pm
Student 2014 = check yourself before you wreck yourself.
Personally, if some footballer did this to my little girl, there would be some street justice to go along with the legal system.
ml1999 October 24, 2012 at 05:53 pm
Why does PHSGirl2013 sound like an adult plant?
ml1999 October 24, 2012 at 05:56 pm
GREAT! I love concrete evidence!
So what did the administration do? Now we are getting somewhere...
ml1999 October 24, 2012 at 06:12 pm
There are a lot of unanswered questions here, assumptions, and unknown facts.
We need facts from ALL sides to figure out exactly what this situation was / is. Maybe there are culpable parents who left liquor cabinets open, or who provided booze. It appears that there are both male and famale students who were active participants, as well as unintented, ignorant victims. I'm told by professional drug rehab counselors that *most* parents don't check their children's Twitter accounts, and they SHOULD. And Facebook. (If they block your access, they are hiding behavior from you, and I would take away the car, iPhone, and everything else. And more.) WHERE is the log? WHERE are the pictures? Personally, if I lived in Piedmont and had young children, I'd move.
Dennis OConnor October 24, 2012 at 07:35 pm
If this involved a lower-order group of Students instead of the top clique, the one containing all the popular jocks and cheerleaders, the Administrators would be focusing on rolling heads and wrecking futures. Anyone caring to deny that must have grown up in the top-clique themselves. The response to this open secret getting out sends the wrong message to everyone: that there are two systems of justice: one for the popular, important, brown-nosing people and one for everyone else. No one wants to see these kids named in the paper and/or charged with crimes but the idea that all of these kids will walk, scott-free -without even any public service? Sickening. Way to go School Administrators! Way to send a strong message.
Stacy October 24, 2012 at 07:48 pm
My experience with piedmont unified (at the elementary school level) is that they turn a blind eye to poor behavior. My daughter (3rd grade) has experienced being bullied by one particular student since kindergarten and I write letters, meet with the teachers, discuss it with the principal. No real action from the school. No consequences for that child who bullies. They grow up in a school system where they learn no one is gonna stop it. This school district doesn't take action. They are in paralysis from all the money given to them by the parents.
Student October 25, 2012 at 01:16 am
Ms. Seymore, I am not quite sure how you can make such a definitive claim from one somewhat inaccurate and misinformed letter. The truth is is that the sexual acts that occurred would have happened REGARDLESS OF THE LEAGUE'S EXISTENCE OR NOT, that is from multiple student accounts, some of which participated in the league. Second off, the acts were not necessarily performed on the high school athletes in charge of the teams. In fact, my sources tell me that an acts occurring between a "player" or team manager in the league and a player on his or her team would not count for league points. This was not a game in which athletes used their position to manipulate younger girls into twisted seual acts with them for points, it was a simple a way of organizing the gossip that pertained to the sexual happenings of students- the same sexual acts that happen at every high school across the country. I am not defending those acts, but I am saying that the problem is not Piedmont-centric, nor was it a result of the Fantasy Slut League's existence, but it is a significantly more widespread problem (if that is how you want to categorize it). YES, the FSL did label the girls as sluts, and obviously that issue should be addressed, but the vast majority of behavior occurring at PHS is well within cultural norms, and in fact is significantly more safe than many other places.
Student October 25, 2012 at 01:20 am
Also, to address the 'middle schoolers' aspect, as far as I know (I was not a member of the league, but have talked to people that were), there were no middle schoolers involved or 'drafted' in the league, and I highly doubt any were present at the parties where people were having sex, maybe drinking, etc. I am extremely doubtful, that, as someone suggested, 6th graders were being used. If so, I may well have a very different position on the league's effects and the disciplinary/legal actions that should ensue.
'09 Alum October 25, 2012 at 08:31 am
Students, take some damn pride in yourselves. I remember kegs hanging from the rafters freshman year and pictures of parties with girls who make Victoria Secret look prude. I know the school motto is a pile of bull, but that does not mean we should have ignored being good citizens of the earth. Just because you have social influence does not mean it has to be used for bad. Sure a specific subset of students were responsible for FSL, but that does not let the whole student body of the hook. Understandably, and mostly correctly so, the girl are seen as either victims or at least those being taken advantage of -especially if she is younger-, but it needs to be noted that the power among students at PHS sees no age nor gender boundaries. Sophomore girls carry plenty of weight, and their influence should be discounted.
The overall point lies in how we decide to look at the FSL. If it is seen as a problem, the responses with be in kind, calling for heads and alienating students from parents. If it is looked at as a reflection of student mentalities and social influences, then appropriate actions can be taken to modify and correct the negative areas. As my father told me many times growing up as I was stomping around the housing refusing to do Mr. James's homework, what kind of attention was I looking for, positive or negative attention? Does Piedmont want to be known for bad parents and wild students or for handling a tough situation with integrity and earnestness.
Student October 25, 2012 at 03:59 pm
ml1999-
I would like to emphasize again the fact that this was designed to be a "fantasy" league, similar to fantasy football, or fantasy baseball. Now, let's say I have a fantasy football team. Boy, I sure want to beat my friends- but there really is nothing I can do to make Tom Brady throw for 2 more TDs. The League's rules were designed in the same way, so that the manager of a team could not score points for his own team. If anything, the league prevented sex occurring between a team's manager and a girl on another team, but I don't think that any high schooler would let a game get in the way of their hormones. Before anyone starts accusing students of covering something up (which is not my intention, I am trying to set the record straight and deny the false accusations, while accepting that the league was a bad thing), someone who was actually a part of the environment where this happened would need to step forth, to prove the apparent organized rape by the varsity football team, instead of a bunch of disconnected, some even out-of-town, adults trying to make conjectures from the one email that was sent out.The letter was, I believe, misinformed, and at times incorrect. The only input from people actually involved or who heard about the league are the ones defending it from the sensationalist claims made by many of you who have invaded our community website.
Hunter Gatherer October 25, 2012 at 04:02 pm
How can you come onto this site and convict sports players at PHS of being guilty when you don't even know the full extent of what happened? This entire site is made up critical people like you who aren't adding anything to the actual issue at hand. Take your ill-informed self off this website and try to not contaminate others with your ludicrous opinions.
Student October 25, 2012 at 04:48 pm
Ms. Seymore, can you give us any shred of evidence, no matter how tiny, that there were any middle schoolers, let alone 6th graders being invited to these parties? From my understanding, the girls at these parties would be attending parties like this regardless of the Fantasy Slut League's existence or not, and 90% or more were upperclassmen. No girls were "stalked" or "targeted", they were the same girls that attended parties similar to this when you went to high school.
You also show a very important misunderstanding of the League. THE BOYS WERE NOT THE ONES SCORING POINTS. This key issue was mistakenly put into the original email sent out. The girls hooked up with 3rd party males, mostly uninvolved with the league, but any acts that occurred between a manager and a girl on his team DID NOT COUNT. This was not males trying to have the most outrageous kinds of twisted sex possible, it was males organizing the gossip in an immature and misogynistic way. The problem of teenagers going off and having sex, maybe drinking alcohol, and then gossiping about it does not "show off Piedmont in all its white picket fence upper-class splendor," it "shows off" a nationwide trend among teens. Is that articulate enough for you?
Student October 25, 2012 at 04:53 pm
Are you kidding me? How would you know how informed Penny's comments are? The most informed comments are the ones from people who actually were part of the culture in which the league took place- the students, like myself, who are posting on this page- each and every one of whom is defending the league to a degree, even the girls who were the victims of the league. Penny got all of her information from the one email sent out that was inaccurate. I urge all of the parents to listen the students here or at home to get the actual information about what happened.
Constructive ideas October 25, 2012 at 10:41 pm
Now that the facts are starting to come out, I'm wondering whether we can have a civil dialogue about how to address the issues. We have learned over the last few days several facts about these leagues: (1) boys and girls were both setting up leagues and playing this insensitive game, (2) versions of these games have been popping up at high schools across the country, (3) both boys and girls at Piedmont High swear there have been no instances of their leagues leading to any coercion or bullying, (4) the format of the leagues didn't actually encourage a participant to have any contact with kids they drafted, and (5) the PHS administration sent out a letter falsely implying that alcohol may have been used to coerce or bully, but no one can think of a single instance of this occurring in connection with the Piedmont leagues. We also seem to agree that even though boys and girls were setting up the leagues that they should be stopped. There also seems to be consensus that kids should be educated about the harmful effects of objectifying behavior, even if boys and girls were both doing it. We also have learned that a mass emailed letter from school administrators which does not get the facts right can lead to a media firestorm. Now it is time to turn this into a teaching opportunity. Let's be civil and focus on how to teach kids to treat each other with more respect. A good place to start would be for those commenting on this site to be more respectful to each other.
Real dialogue October 26, 2012 at 01:10 pm
As a parent of 3 girls, I think we should now focus on ideas to help our kids navigate a complex world. My suggestion is open dialogue with your kids. That's not to say we should listen passively, but we should talk WITH them not AT them. The community has learned over the last few days that girls and boys set up these leagues. We've also learned that these leagues exist at high schools across the country. And we've learned that in Piedmont there was no bullying in connection with these leagues. I knew that girls were setting up their own leagues last year. My oldest daughter (now graduated from PHS) was asked to participate in one. Before deciding what to do, she asked me and my husband our views. We told her we thought that this sort of thing was insensitive, and suggested she avoid them. Or better yet, we advised, tell the girls and boys that were setting up the leagues to do something more constructive. She decided to decline the invitation to participate in the league being set up by her female friends. Perhaps one of the reasons she didn't participate is because she talked with her parents about it. I would like to think that she felt comfortable talking about it with us, because she knew we wouldn't get hysterical. Parenting is in large part about communication. We could all do a little better at that.
kirkwood smith October 27, 2012 at 04:14 am
@Parent, perhaps I can supply some context that obviates the conclusions to which you seem eager to leap. (And, I assure you, the reasons for which I'm in sympathy.) Some thirty years after the fact, I found out that my younger, twin brothers routinely watered down the old man's booze. Being clever fellows, they only touched the stuff which he didn't himself drink. A good and generous host, he never had a clue. This, in spite of the fact that he knew that they sneaked in and out of the house by exiting through their second story window, late at night, traversed the roof of the garage, and lowered themselves onto our woodpile, which was adjacent to same. He was diligent, willing to allow them reasonable latitude, but nonetheless missed the booze angle totally. Just as he successfully raised a daughter who restrained her sexual impulses until her situation and maturity warranted their expression. Once again, though, it never occurred to him that the lady next door would seduce his youngest, who was but thirteen. Only coincidentally, of course, he began drinking at the same age, as well as otherwise acting out. (No one knew of this until more than twenty years later, when he told me.) My folks were nowhere near as permissive and, frankly, negligent, as many of these parents clearly are, but isht happens. While I applaud the call for greater parental attention to their responsibilities, I would urge caution at the suggestion of draconian overreaction.
kirkwood smith October 27, 2012 at 04:19 am
(continued) Some things are not amenable to the quick fix of government action. As it is, there is already overmuch resort, among American school administration, to so-called "zero-tolerance" policies. The best hope for our children is that wake-up calls, like the one afforded by letters like that sent by this Principal, are heeded and the right lessons drawn. Throwing your seed onto the ground is unlikely to raise up a bumper crop.
kirkwood smith October 27, 2012 at 04:38 am
In re the nature of this so-called "game", nowhere above did I find evidence that anyone here -- student or parent or kibbitzer -- saw the incentive which it provides for a truly insidious form of "cheating". Those who read the comments closely enough would find that the nature of the FSL, as "played" at FSL, makes winning contingent on the sexual acts of the girls who a boy drafted WITH SOMEONE ELSE. Now, imagine that said boy slips a roofie into one of his "players" drinks. He "scores" and is at safe remove (assuming that no one catches him in the act.) Who would even suspect? I wonder how freaky she might get under those circumstances? Would she do the room? Send the train down a dark tunnel? Tell you what, some boy might well end up in jail --her blood will tell the tail --but it'll be some innocent putz, not the Joker. (Do you hear me now?!)
kirkwood smith October 27, 2012 at 04:40 am
(errata in the above)...as "played" at PHS (not FSL), of course
kirkwood smith October 27, 2012 at 04:57 am
@Parent, forgive me if I presume too much, but the tenor of your suggestion worries me. While there is much of feminist thought to be commended, the all-too-frequent refusal to treat men and boys as if they, too, were human beings is not. In the instant case, it MAY well be that one or more girls were truly victims of some level of coercion, but it doesn't necessarily follow, no matter what the laws of the Norwegian Gynocracy might say. Both girls and boys get horny. Both girls and boys act intemperately. Both girls and boys have regrets, albeit girls are more likely to have them. (Biology isn't so immutable as gender theory would have it.) The fact that men commit most rapes is partially hormonal, partly social. Mostly, though, it's a consequence of the fact that men are bigger and stronger. (Many a mother, even in my long-vanished youth, could tell you stories about the young darlings who set their designs on some innocent boy. One I knew found such a girl "communing" with the sleeping son who she had left in an otherwise empty house several hours earlier. That boy had come in late, three sheets to the wind. From the looks of things, that girl's desire might well have led her to help herself. (Hey, he was catnip, the lucky *******, what can I say?)
kirkwood smith October 27, 2012 at 05:29 am
If only those who do not understand could guess the subtext of your directional arrows, then they might weep at the spilling of so many tears of regret. It isn't necessary that a crime be committed for a sin to have been. Helping other people to an unquiet heart is something to which a just God would call a man to account. (As may the consciences of some of those boys, when they see one of these girls fall, now or some years down the road. Did I...? Was I somehow...? Good men, too, have carried their shame to their graves.)
kirkwood smith October 27, 2012 at 05:40 am
(continued) Nicole Kidman's turn in the movie "Eyes Wide Open" concerns the sexual adventure of a woman in her thirties. The very same acts can have vastly more devastating consequences for a girl in her teens. Unforeseeable ones, oftentimes. To guard against such things, it would be best if all such acts were limited to partners who came together with open hearts and mutual affection. Mistakes are a lot more palatable, in hindsight, when there is a genuine bond between the lives involved, even if their joining be a one-time thing. Connections and context are almost always a desirable thing for a girl or woman. (A good general rule in life is that most of the damage which men do comes from clumsy emotional blundering. On the other hand, women usually meant it, even if they didn't fully grasp what was to follow.)
kirkwood smith October 27, 2012 at 05:46 am
Much agreed, '03. I do, however, have reservations about the follow-up activities as presented in the letter. Most of the students who will be subjected to them are unlikely to be among those involved or vulnerable. Many of them, quite frankly, will never be included in such, as they'll not be judged "suitable" by the social dominants involved. It's no great kindness to rub their noses in the messes of those who are more fortunate.
kirkwood smith October 27, 2012 at 05:56 am
(continued) I wonder just how many boys have quietly checked out, upon finding their perceived "inadequacies" to be a matter for the sport of everyone around them. Perhaps as many, or more, as the number of girls who've been slut shamed into it by their "sisters".
kirkwood smith October 27, 2012 at 06:02 am
(continued) Of course, not all boys who've been marginalized, cruelly or not, "go gently into that good night." Some go out in blazes of glory. There are many untoward consequences that come with raising up children who haven't been socialized with such things as empathy, modesty, charity, or a clear regard for the consequences of one's actions.
johnsmitty October 28, 2012 at 06:37 pm
JOIN THE MOVEMENT https://www.facebook.com/pages/100000-Strong-for-South-Park-Episode-about-FSL/122736727879939?ref=hl
Jaclyn Morris November 1, 2012 at 03:12 am
LOL
Sandy December 16, 2012 at 11:02 am
Where I am in the Midwest these actions are punishable by law. Even consensual s*x is prohibited if you are under 18. There are tickets issued and it does go on your record. If one is 18 and the other is not it is STILL punishable by law in that the 18 year old is contributing to the deliquency of a minor as well as having s*x with someone 16 or older/under 16. There are charges filed and these are misdemeanors that go on their record. That is possibly what the "negative effects" are that the students were talking about.
Whether it was rape or not, men are inherently very competitive as are some women. With it being a game with a points system there definitely is a competitive spirit to it and a drive to be the best. If it wasn't that big of a deal why would any of the students feel pressured to be involved? That in itself says this was not some unimportant activity that "student" is making it out to be. Lastly, the school is making a huge mistake in their stance on not finding out who the participants are and taking disciplinary action on past actions since this will, undoubtedly, continue. Not only that but now the students know where the school's moral compass sits at and will continue to push the boundaries to see what they can get away with. The trash that is being touted as "reality" tv sure is going far to ensure we have an excellent future with bright future leaders...NOT!

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